John brill part 2

     From the outside, John Brill has it all. He has a genuine and incredibly warm disposition which makes him really easy to be around. He has an exuberance for life and an infectious smile. He also has a wonderful wife and 2 kids.  This might lead you to believe that things some easy for John, but as with most people he has his own struggles.  By sitting down with John I discovered that he is the type of man that works extremely hard, has a very high set of core values when it comes to work and his marriage and he internalizes his perfection to a fault.

      John grew up in a suburb of minneapolis with a normal but memorable childhood. His parents owned a Dog Kennel business which taught him a good work ethic.  In his high school years he started to realize the relationship he thought his parents had, was not what it seemed and while in college, his parents went through a "messy" divorce.  John opened up about his own marriage and fears of what the future holds. Like so many..... myself included, John questions what will happen after they become "empty nesters"? John's drive to make sure his family is well provided for, his desire to be financially secure and to live the lifestyle they are accustom to...... has taken it's toll on his time with his wife and children. I have spoken with other women about that exact question and asked their take on what holds a marriage together? "You have to keep a sense of trust, open communication and friendship between one another, otherwise you get lost in the busyness of life and the next thing you know the kids are gone and you have lost who you once were as a couple."  John realizes this and wants more for his wife and more for himself.  I give John a lot of credit for wanting to make sure his marriage stays not only intact but a marriage that is everlasting.
     John is the finance manager for Disney here in Minnesota, LOVES his job and excels in his field. People that do well like John are always looking at how they can do more, achieve more, set the next goal and excel. John's is finding out that his drive can put other areas of our lives out of balance. So out of balance he occasionally finds himself battling personal demons.  The stress of his own perfection leads to anger issues "I can go to 0-10 like that and just Burst" which he then finds himself comforting himself by over eating and making poor choices with eating.

How do you balance your job, your marriage, your children, your spiritual life, your friendships AND allow yourself time? John is asking himself hard questions while not laying blame on others.  He's setting goals for himself like imporving his overall health and well being, he's opening up to someone he did not know and allowing himself to take a step back and breath.  Step back..... and breath......... look at where you have been, where you are now and decide if you are on a path that is leading you towards your life goal.

     I am excited to share with you what has enveloped over the last few days, I gave John a hard task and some tough questions to answer. I will share those with you on Friday!

........until then!